Part Two: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others!
There is always a strong temptation to compare yourself to others and this is made all but overwhelming in this age of social media. When you have access to the online profiles of friends, colleagues, casual acquaintances and competitors – it is all too easy to see a snapshot of their fabulous lives – all of which can seem more joyful, beautiful, healthy and successful than yours.
A sense of perspective is essential here as all you are seeing is a tiny, carefully curated snapshot that does not show the other things such as how much they worry about the huge amount of personal capital they invested in their new business venture; how anxious they are about getting their children into a good school; and how hard they worked out to get in shape.
Every magazine will show you a beautiful model looking sensational and wearing stunning, unaffordable clothing in a luxury setting. These carefully stage-managed vistas do not even pretend to portray reality and to expect it in your life will never lead to happiness and fulfillment.
Recent high-profile tragedies have thrown into sharp and uncomfortable relief how little we know about many of the people who are held up as ‘having it all’ – it is very possible that the people we envy are in a turmoil of their own.
Writing for Tiny Buddha, Sonja Derian suggests this mental urge to measure, quantify and gauge is normal and that instead of attempting to turn it off entirely, we should internalise this drive for comparison – comparing where we are now with where we have come from and where we would like to be.
The lives of others are utterly inscrutable to us – so let go of what others are doing and concentrate on your own values and dreams as they will give you the tools to become the person you want to be.
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